Personal experience

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More than role reversal, more than prosexual or sex-positive

I tend to think about erotic equality in terms of balance.  Role reversal is one form of balance; balancing power, balancing opportunity of expression.  But for me, role reversal is still an either/or formula that doesn't meet my needs. 

Herizons Magazine (Canada) | A review

Herizons Magazine

Traveling through Canada I picked up some feminist mags in indie bookstores just to try out some new reading.

Impressively worldly

Herizons has informative short reports from around the world of advances and current campaigns for women's issue rights in addition to local, Canadian and North American reporting.

Tantric Healing Through Psychedelics

When it comes to the human experience few things are as alchemically powerful as sex and the ingestion of entheogenic substances.  The combination of these two is like adding rocket fuel to the body electric. Used safely, it can blast you to luminous stratospheres of healing, intimacy, ecstatic states of consciousness, and yes, heart-opening, body-quaking orgasms.  Used recklessly, you can end up damaging your energy field.  We’d like to share our journey into this controversial subject.

Hey ugly, no looking at pretty: a message from OkCupid

This is an e-mail OkCupid sends out. I did not edit a word; emphasis in original.

We are very pleased to report that you are in the top half of OkCupid's most attractive users. The scales recently tipped in your favor, and we thought you'd like to know.

How can we say this with confidence? We've tracked click-thrus on your photo and analyzed other people's reactions to you in Quickmatch and Quiver.

"The Process-Oriented Virgin" | A Response

This is a response to the article The Process-Oriented Virgin, by Hanne Blank, published in Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape.

Nice guys finish ... in the shower?

When I am single, I get told that a "nice guy" like me isn't attractive to women. A lot.

Most of my life I am happy and active, with (too) many projects, and, at times, great relationships. But at other times, between intimate relationships, I can feel lonely and depressed. It is at these times that I have been tempted to believe the people who tell me that I am a single "nice guy" because women choose "bad boys."

First time to a sex club

Angel's Social Club

ANGELS Social Club, Portland, OR

Stereotypical Amateur Porn Directors

Easier bought than sold

So I've met a great deal of amazing and wonderful people as I've worked on this ProgressiveErotica website project.  I have brought up sex and sexy at gatherings I can't imagine having done so under any other circumstances.