Articles are materials that stimulate discussion and articulate opinions about the lifestyle issues surrounding living Happy + Sexy.

"Who're You Calling a Whore?" | A Response

Yes Means Yes

Flipped again

"I think that sex workers commodify men. I remember looking at guys in strip clubs and seeing dollar signs in place of their heads. [...] I hate it when people assume that the only people commodified in sex work are the workers." -- Mariko1

Making change

Combahee River Collective Statement (1977)

The changing ways of change

Resources & links

Sexuality (authors)

Words & Ideas - Dominator or Initiator?

Initiator Toru-nakata

Sticky, sticky, sticky

One of the sticky topics to tackle on this site is the concept of domination and power as applied to our sexual relationships.  Power can be so subjective, and in the realm of sexuality, we're dealing with a vast lair of context.

"Hooking Up with Healthy Sexuality" | A Summary

Yes Means Yes

Sexy nice boys?

You may be familiar with the virgin/whore dichotomy, but Brad Perry is exploring the stud/husband one in this essay about learning how to be a respectful, sexual man.  When it comes to women assessing a man, he's requesting a new category,

I can be respectful and make you come.

For entitlement and victimhood to end, we need men and women to stop playing the roles.  

Common Privilege Traps and How to Avoid Them

Derailing for Dummies

Learning to be good communicators can be hard work, especially when we are speaking through a lens of privilege.  Sometimes we play into negative cycles because we are not aware of our privileges.  Here are some tips for continued self-awareness.

On the Virtues of Vanilla


One sexy bean pod

First of all, it's from an orchid.  An orchid!  It's medically considered mildly addictive (!) and historically was an aphrodisiac. 

Yes, indeed, and as it turns out, and I quote:

The Anti-Exploits of Men Against Sexism

Men Against Sexism

"Only by rooting out internalized sexism would men treat one another with respect."

Anti-Exploits of Men Against Sexism by Ed Mead, Revolutionary Rumors PRESS

Embarking to understand the principles of tantra


The past is vomited out by the present.


Sex Wars Live Demo

"Sex Wars" by EROTIC BODY STATION explores the uncanny similarities in the puritanical sex-negative anti-choice mentality of anti-sex-industry Radical Feminism and the Christian Right. The soundbites feature Gail Dines, Rush Limbaugh, Betty Dodson and vlogger, sex-positive feminist, transwoman and web-cam model AtypicalAeshe.