I tend to think about erotic equality in terms of balance. Role reversal is one form of balance; balancing power, balancing opportunity of expression. But for me, role reversal is still an either/or formula that doesn't meet my needs.
[Article permitted by Tana Lee on Thu, 04/09/2015 - 5:10pm]
What makes you feel crazy is the effort to rationalize the other's behavior. Trying to rationalize why someone who loves you treats you badly makes you crazy; trying to rationalize why you love someone who treats you badly makes you crazy.
[Article permitted by Tana Lee on Wed, 02/18/2015 - 10:50pm]
"I think that sex workers commodify men. I remember looking at guys in strip clubs and seeing dollar signs in place of their heads. [...] I hate it when people assume that the only people commodified in sex work are the workers." -- Mariko1
[Article permitted by Tana Lee on Mon, 01/26/2015 - 8:40pm]
One of the sticky topics to tackle on this site is the concept of domination and power as applied to our sexual relationships. Power can be so subjective, and in the realm of sexuality, we're dealing with a vast lair of context.
[Article permitted by Tana Lee on Thu, 09/04/2014 - 8:55pm]
You may be familiar with the virgin/whore dichotomy, but Brad Perry is exploring the stud/husband one in this essay about learning how to be a respectful, sexual man. When it comes to women assessing a man, he's requesting a new category,
I can be respectful and make you come.
For entitlement and victimhood to end, we need men and women to stop playing the roles.
[Article permitted by Tana Lee on Thu, 06/12/2014 - 10:21pm]
Learning to be good communicators can be hard work, especially when we are speaking through a lens of privilege. Sometimes we play into negative cycles because we are not aware of our privileges. Here are some tips for continued self-awareness.
[Article permitted by Tana Lee on Fri, 05/23/2014 - 7:44pm]